There's no longer chitter chatter about the norm, it's all about how the planning of how the 'big day' is going...
This makes me slightly nervous as we literally only have the church and the venue booked.
We haven't had a chance to meet the wedding organiser at our venue to finalise some of the main ideas.
I have not found the child free/Mum available time to go wedding dress shopping since my first try at it.
I have not gone through any plans or ideas with my 3 bridesmaids-it is impossible to catch them all on the same day too due to either uni, or working days falling on different days.
I have not found bridesmaid dresses nor outfits for the boys.
We have not even thought about looking for suits yet.
I am still undecided on what flowers I want as I seem to like so many of them (damn pinterest)!
We haven't even thought of a honeymoon.
And I always seem to forget the rings on any mental list!! Which should be quite high priority!
I have a list of photographers who people have recommended that I just can't find faults with, differences with and no idea how we can afford them-but don't want to compromise on photos either as they are very important to me especially. I am a sentimental girl after all.
I had a text from a Mummy friend (who is a party animal at heart and our social organiser for our group!) asking what I had planned for my hen do-I haven't even given it a passing thought let alone planned anything/had anyone in charge of it! To be honest I am not fussed about a hen do what so ever-I'm happy with something low key and laid back-boring I know! Plus it's still 6 months away...
It was quite a relief at our marriage prep class today to know we weren't alone! One other couple on our table seemed to be in a similar boat and they are getting married the week after us.
I feel there is so much pressure on a wedding, you want to please everyone but it doing so you may not be following your own choices as a couple.
Do you invite a few more people and compromise on the food choices? Cull the list for the meal and invite others to the evening do even if they are people you want at the wedding function itself?
Our parents are helping us pay, and I feel incredibly guilty for that, my parents were in a tricky situation even less than a year ago and are still paying for that. Yet I think my Dad almost feels obliged and wants to pay, maybe because I am his only daughter, who knows. So now I am looking at the guest list wondering if it's all just too much?
Me and James aren't massive party go-ers, neither of us really drink, we don't have the money for these long weekend stag and hen do's that seem to be getting more popular these days (nor want them)-people expect you to be doing something big the more other people do like it's the social norm!
|My wedding pinterest board|
It's not all bad though, we have a cake lady booked and a rough idea on design, we've agreed on plum/grape (whatever else it's called) for our colour, we both like the rustic look (I'm thinking hessian bunting made by yours truly) so at least we can stuff our faces with cake when it all gets too much!
|My wedding pinterest board|
Did you find planning a wedding stressful, or create tensions?
Did you have to hold back due to other peoples feelings, thoughts, or budgets?
Did you give in to the peer pressure and do something you didn't feel comfortable with?
I'd love to hear your thoughts-in my mind we still have 6 months, I am a last minute planner even when a vision is in my head.
Did you plan your wedding meticulously or let it full into place at the last moment?