So with that in mind we bought a bunk bed off our friends who also lived in a coach house with two kids but were moving house. These were perfect though as the bunks are tot sized beds and the lower bunk is literally a cm or two off the floor, making the higher bunk not as high off the floor as standard bunk beds.
When Sam was around 10 months (I think-I don't know exactly-oops!) we took the plunge to move him into the bedroom too. Alex had got used to being on the top bunk and Sam had taken a head first dive out of his cot that morning which scared the life out of us!
I'll be honest after that long with Sam in our bedroom I was very apprehensive about it all, I thought we'd have huge battles but in fact in was all working quite well. Obviously there were a few occasions where he ended up with us (often if he woke in the night) but generally it was quite good., and it was great to not have to sneak into our bedroom every night too!
That was until Christmas. Sam had come down with a chest infection and during the festive period we were not home much. He just wanted cuddles all day and night-and that's what worked to get him better.
So when he was better we had a problem, Sam had forgotten how to get to sleep by himself!
He cried and kept Alex awake-which made Alex cry and paddy.
We tried moving Alex into our room and moving him across later this partially works but quite often disturbs Sam in the process so he ends up with us anyway!
We've tried staggering bed times but this has much the same problem. Or Alex will purposely panic about Sam being in the room and says things like "Sam will give me a headache, Sam will cry" which in turn wakes Sam who screams as he's been woken suddenly.
Sam will then not settle for ages despite James and my best efforts, so we really don't get an evening together and Sam doesn't get anywhere near enough sleep.
We have also tried putting them down at the same time, with the same routine we have always had but this has not worked recently, they will both scream, get out of the bed, bang on the walls, bang on the door and then Alex will open it and come straight into the lounge (which is next to their bedroom) with Sam following behind.
Me and James have had no quality time together recently as once the children are finally asleep we just shut down and sit in front our laptops on the sofa, I'm too exhausted to finish off the housework in the evening so wake to a messy house, we are too out of it to even sit down together to watch a programme on tv because we just can't relax or concentrate on it properly.
I am fed up of having a disturbed nights sleep due to Sam being in the middle of our bed.
I am fed up of feeling resentment in the morning towards the boys (I know how awful that sounds), I am not being a very happy Mum at the moment-I just can't function with no me time/rubbish nights sleep.
I am fed up of not having any quality time with James, we have so much to talk about with wedding planning but we just don't get the child free opportunity.
So please if you have any tips I would be eternally grateful!
From a very fed up Mummy who's turning into a bit of an ogre! x